Baby Momma Drama

Sunday, July 31, 2011

As I grew up I never understood the meaning of a "Baby Momma" until now. I have watched women keep children from their fathers all because they said that they were done with your crazy ass not their kids. Women why do you do this? What exactly are you gaining from this?

While doing some research on the meaning of a "baby momma" the definitions are clearly different to different people. Wikipedia defines a "baby momma" as a mother that is not married to the child's father WHILE the Urban Dictionary defines them as the following (prepare yourself please):
-Some chick you knocked up on accident during a fling who you can't stand but you have to tolerate cuz you have a baby with her now.
-Someone who takes the money that she is supposed to use to take care of the kid and spends it on rental cars in the summer, buys hair, gets nails done and pretends to be a baller with her child support to impress all her friends who all thinks she a loser for losing such a good man.

Now I guess the drama parts just comes natural with these baby mommas. Maybe its a prerequisite to the course of baby momma 101 to have a semester of "drama" 102. Why do ya'll feel the need to blow up his phone every 2 minutes? You leave dumb ass messages on his phone saying shit like "I don't need you and you can keep your money?" Well bitch if that's the case why are you at the welfare office trying to get him on child support. Hmmm.... I just don't understand women these days. I have this saying "I was running my household before you and when you're gone, honey clockwork is still the way its gonna run." Ain't nothing like being trapped in a relationship that you know that when that is tired of your ass he gonna POOF be gonna and you gonna be stuck. Why are you stuck....cuz you didn't set your purpose before that man walked thru that door. Ladies please get your game together! Do you first, then your kids. Quit trying to "punish" a man that no longer wants to be with you. And if I recall it right I believe that you was on the phone dogging him out to everybody saying that you wish he'd leave. Now that he gone....tears.....why??? Oh, I'll tell you why! Because now you have to GROW THE FUCK UP and be an adult. Wow, how bout that. Be grown...hmm...what does that mean? It means that you will need to get it together and worry about you and how you gonna eat, sleep, and live without a man that you depended on because you was lazy and selfish.

I'm so glad that I'm not a baby momma myself but I have encountered a rather different one these past few months. As my girl Evita would say "a ratchet ass baby momma" is what this chick is. Honey if you don't need him...quit calling! God works in such mysterious ways that everything that this RABM tried to do she got back 10 fold. Everyone saw thru the lies and she cannot understand why she is the only one in her circle. Wait! To make a circle you need more than one person...two would give you a line...three would give you a triangle...four a square.......well damn, ya'll know where I'm going with this. But at what point do you hang up the drama and move forward. Ooh, ooh, ooh... I know why! Because without someone in your life you are nothing and that's a bad place to be.

Life is not a game....well, maybe it is!

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One Year of Blogging... Overdue!

Wednesday, July 13, 2011


So as my year of blogging has apparently come and gone so quickly (3/25/2011), I've noticed that this blog was in "draft" mode for over 3 months lol! Goodness, I need to be better! Again, as my readers/followers are better than I am and not to name my biggest Fan...Brian- he whom pisses excellence reminded me then and I just got to busy to publish it until today. So that means that that I have been officially blogging for over a year! To be exact for 475 days, 12 hours, 18 minutes and 22 seconds or 1 year, 3 months, 12 hours, 18 minutes and 22 seconds (and ticking)!


I have had so much going on in my life that I have lost sight of what it is that I love to do; what's important to me. Now everyone can probably remember when I wouldn't go no more than two days without putting something out there for you to read. Even if it was "................." with a in the middle of the screen (at least it was something).

So my committment to you will be to go back to the way that it was...no excuses! And I know that there are some of you that will hold me to it (Evita, Val, Brian and probably errbody else).

When things are working out to none the less the best of what it should I should still have something to fall back on and that thru the years has always been my writing. So writing I shall do. No matter how hard things get or how great they are, its always good to just acknowledge that it is what it is and if you can't change it "Bless it" and keep it moving.

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------>>>> Real Life<<<<------

Thursday, July 7, 2011

When enough is enough and the silence is finally silent...what will we do then? When feelings get replaced with all the facts of emotions will we still be around? Screams of hurt in not just the physical form capturing moments of life that shouldn't even be mentioned but yet it is...daily. In such a manner that it is not enough, silent, or felt in any way depicting any emotion. Injuries or as some would say "battle scars" will prevail to let you realize that they were hidden for only a short period of time. Each holding a name or title at which you actually strategically placed upon it to remember why that scar was there.


At what point do you let go of "what it feels like" and just move on? Move on to the reality of just life as it stands. "It is what it is" is my favorite saying because what it is maybe bullshit or a blessing and whatever the event may be both can bring you joy or pain. Was it a divorce? Depending on the person at which filed the paperwork the petitioner (blessing) or the respondent(bullshit) lol! See, like I said...joy or pain. Was it a new position at work? Your co-workers may call it bullshit but to you its a blessing. See the pattern...It all depends on how you feel and how you choose to let it affect you and your life.

When life spins you in a direction that you would rather take the detour is it because you are scared of where it will lead you or are you nervous about whether or not you can handle it or not? I've grown to learn that sometimes it is both. Currently i'm not either of my "spin" in life but I'm sure as hell cautious of the situation. I've been here before and tried to tackle it gracefully but my version of graceful is quite different. I'm not saying that I didn't stub my toe or remember to do the most important of things but I'm saying that I got thru it. With the help of myself and 2 more people (me and I). Why bring the burden down on someone else when you are perfectly capable of maintaining the upkeep of self. C'mon, I still got limbs to fall back on. I do not require my hand to be held at all.

Focus on the unfocusable (hmmm, I think I just made up a word because "unfocused" just looks dumb) who can do that with a million other things going on right now. I really had to giggle to myself and hopefully my mom doesn't read this (but I know she may and ....i'm sorry) but I'd like to think that i'm "unfuckable". Yes you read it right! Un-fuck-able...and I'm not talking about sex in anyway. I'm talking about the fact that I believe that nothing will fuck with me in a way that it will determine the outcome of my life. Only I can do that! Let's go to the Urban Dictionary ya'll (cuz I'm sure Webster's is not gonna support my theory)... UNFUCKABLE: Something that is so amazing, so perfect, so awesome that you just can't fuck with it. Nothing in the world beats it, it's the best of its class (i.e. Unfuckable). Yep, that's me.

LHM, why did I dabble in the Urban Dictionary too damn long and find: LAMC (lyin ass mutha f'n Coefficient...WOW! I know one of them...maybe 5 of 'em. The actual value of the LAMC fluctuates depending on the relative purity of the LAMC in question and must be adjusted accordingly. A LAMC of .8 or .9 is only appropriate for a "part-time" or "fly-by-night" LAMC, while a true, pathological LAMC often necessitates a .1 or even a 0.5 lol!

Okay, well it was bout time that I posted something in preparation to the "real" post that hopefully will be published sometime this weekend (gotta lot of research to do but I promise it will be worth the wait).

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