Top 10 Reasons not to Date a Black Woman....
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
So one of my FB friends posted this from a discussion within a chat window on Black Planet. I'm really bothered by some of this! I'm bringing this to the roundtable for discussion. What do you think about this post. Are these black men attracting the wrong females? I wanna hear from you. Break this shit down for me..being a black female I want to understand before I go for the Jugular!
Top 10 Reasons not to Date a Black Woman
1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in White America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.
6 comments:
Its funny how black men expect a women to pick them up and make them feel like they are King shit, when all truth be told their asses should be picking they selves up and their women..aparatently the ones that have the problems with being with a strong black woman, Have no back bone or strength in themselves..Therefore they look for a weaker woman to feel like they are running, who will do all the shit they want us to, because a lower standard of woman for them builds they sorry ass strength..And as far as a black womans tolerance being to low and apparently not understading their struggle in this White America..Maybe its time to move on to other shit and quite worring about your so called struggles you have had (because black women have this also) If men can not stop allowing themselves to be concerned about what you think this white mans world is not doing for you, and come up for yourself and yours then maybe your black woman would give you stronger and better understanding, We woman also need to be supported and understood, because we all have struggles..So Black men look into yourselves and see what your Strength and honor can do for you.
Wow! I'm just shocked at these answers.
I know a few very "white" women who fall in almost all of these catergories and it sickens me to see that ANY of these are directed solely at ANY particular race.
# 7 and 10 have to be my favorites, LOL
#7 because I always assumed the opposite(stereotyping I know) but I seem to think they tend to worry about apperances more as they get older. And # 10 because in today's working woman society, who does this anymore, I mean as much as say 20-30 years ago? maybe they should be more specific on what is considered catering to a man? IDK
After reading the responses I'm kind of at a lost for words. It's a weaker woman that stands by her man? Does that mean a stronger woman is too strong to stand by a man's side so she has to be out in front? Catering to a man? Apparently no woman does that anyway, not unless you are of course a caterer. Cater means to provide what is WANTED or NEEDED in a particular situation, by a particular person or a particular group of people. Meaning that the man in your life caters to you. Giving you what you want and need. Stop.... I didn't want to get on here and post any defense for or against what has been said. All I wanted to was comment on 10 reasons not to date a black woman. I can come up with 100 REASONS why you should date a black woman. But I'll share with you just two. 1. The strength of a woman enhances her man's strength. Meaning she's uplifting not in charge of all the heavy-lifting. 2. Simply put, The LOVE of a black woman is like none other. I mean real love from a real woman transcends petty scabbles, differences, and disagreements. At the end of the day when it is all said and done. She loves her man, because her man loves her.(In general speaking) I don't want to get into all the details of love. Life is too short to waste on the complaints. Focus on the positive and keep pushing forward. If that man/woman isn't right for you, then make that observation and adapt. It's not about the other person, it's always about you. What is it that draws you to a man/woman that is no good for you? What is it in your character that attracts them to you? Figure this out and you won't have a reason to complain. Ever.
It's all about decisions. Black women make bad choices on men. Then want to blame all Black men on the stupid choices they made on the three guys they dated. Sometimes the good man you need is right there staring you in the face. To be honest I am guilty of it to. In my past I have choice the beautiful girl over the one who would have giving me what every man wants....PEACE. I have made that mistake. I know how to look deeper now. If I had done before what I am doing now I would have noticed the evil under that beautiful skin. I know I don't have to settle for less. To all the good women out there. You don't have to either. There are women out there who want peace.
I could go into a entire thing on this but I will save that for another day.
6. We have become hot headed and now have attitudes toward the black men who think they can sponge off of us and not expect to do anything in return for what we give to them...The black man has created us to be who they percieve us to be.
7. Black woman have invented fashion!!!! We invented the curling iron...When we get a certain age we are destined to look even better than before we have the genes in us that make us look good even when we are older!! That is just a straight up myth!!
8. I don't know about that one cause I am a straight up freak in the sheets!!! Oral sex and all...I handle mines!!! I have heard though that a lot of females do not do this...black white etc...It all depends on your upbringing not the race...
9. We are not empathetic to it because we are hip to the games they play to get their ways!! We are however, empathetic in the sense of we can relate and know that struggle all to well because we have came outside of the same roots...We just do not want our black race to become any weaker than what it is in that aspect we expect a brother to BRING IT!!! We know that our race is capable of being the strongest empire in the world but because a lot of our brothers want to play these little bs a!@ games it is a hindrance on our entire race and we as a race are stronger than that.
10. Oh we cater to our men!!! Just as long as we are being appreciated also there is nothing and I mean nothing that we do not stop at to please our men!!! You will be surprised when we are treated like the strong black educated queens we are…It is well worth it there is a huge empire that can be built out of a strong union with us black women…Believe that!!
I am not ashamed to let everyone know that this was created by yours truly Shawnna Johnson!!! I have faith in our black females and our black men but it is up to us not to fall for the divisions that other races are trying to create between us as a strong black family!!!
I really have a book for every number that is posted up there...I am wondering though who it was who created this because as I know all too well any white man who is trying to tear down the black family would definitely get this in circulation!!! If this was a black man who wrote this I feel bad for the thought process of this ignorant man because...
1. It is because of the black man that we make you feel underappreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive. When our black men begin to appreciate us for the queens we are then we reciprocate it... The black man is supposed to be the leader and we are supposed to be the back bone but in society today all SOME black men want to do is hoe around and live off of the next female that would allow them too. Not every black man is like this but it creates a very difficult time for us finding the ones who are not like this, those men are the minority of the minority!!
2. We are strong headed and independent because of the black men who have left us at home to fill in the gaps without children in turn we have become this way. Hence the breaking up of our black family that some of us tend to realize brings not only us as individuals down but our black race down!! When we build a strong relationship and it is bound together with love the quality that flourishes from that bond creates us to become not only stronger but it helps build our economical stance in the long run!!
3. We are aggressive and no longer waiting for the pursuit of our black men because our black men have been busy hoeing around with other females so why should we wait on a dream? Especially when our good strong black brothers are a minority of the minority!!
4. We like to run the relationship because of our strong independence which has created us black women to become a little bit more educated in some forms than our own black men ...When we finally get a strong educated black men then we fall back and allow that strong educated black man to guide us because we know that we can create a strong relationship with that brother if he is educated enough to handle us!! If no then we take the lead…
5. Us black women appreciate a man who has established themselves in life...When we fall for the brothers who are not well established they want to live off of whatever means possible that they can soak up on us... becoming a sponge on us...When we give to our black brothers we are dictated as weak...stupid the list goes on but when we are looking for a well established man we are then labeled a gold digger...That is not the case it is simply that we want a man who is well established to handle all that we come with.
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