Immobile To Live And Love...

I have something to say as usual. What is the point in being in a relationship where there is no trust. You go to work and come home and occasionally you go and have a drink with friend that you wouldnt normally. All this to please one person. One person that you care so much about but that person is so blinded by other people and what they think that it is damaging to your relationship. You misunderstand your partner and always try to find something wrong to validate why things cant be good all the time. "what's the catch" you always think when in fact there really isnt one and that person just wants to do what they feel is right. Even when it tears them apart daily. You love that person with all your heart and would do anything for them but at what point does "over-protective" turn to "controlling." You remember the good times that you had with the people that you were used to being with and then when you enter into a relationship all that is supposed to change. Why??? What is the real issue? Why must we just sit and wait for the other person to come around as their schedule fits. Understanding that they have obligations to their life but what about yours. Is what you want not important anymore? Why cant the other person understand that if you wanted to leave or do something outside your relationship that you would end it. bow out gracefully. Why cheat? If I dont want to be with that person then dont be. But you need to understand that that person had a life before you that was functioning and it shouldnt stop just because it makes you happy. Dont be selfish like that. Be understanding and realize that that person chose you. What needs to happen for that person to just "get it?" Is it because they have experienced a bad relationship and they are reflecting? Is this just their insecurities because they know that things are not perfect and you could just move on at anytime. But what if you are unhappy? Why doesnt that count in the other persons' eyes. Why is it that all they see is black and white, male and female, and even more so just dick and pussy. I'm sorry but we're all adults here. Why cant they accept the fact that you took time out of your life to get to know them, to love them, and even more so try to devote your life to them. What exactly are we missing in the love equation? When me + you = love and nothing else. I know that there are several different variables where in some cases me + you = uncertainty, distrust, misguided love but at what point do we sit at the chalk board and figure some shit out! Nothing like pondering on a problem for a lifetime and the answer is right in front of you. But the solution to your problem is that you need to open your eyes...open your eyes to accept that that person does love you unconditionally and wants to be there thru everything. So I guess the real question is are you willing to accept them the way that they were (and still is) without making them sacrifice their life for you? Open you eyes to understand that they want to love you with all of their being. More importantly open your heart and create a two way street that can be travelled simotaniously by the both of you. Can you travel that street at a slow speed so everyone can see that it can in fact be done "together." When you each reach that "rest stop" can you still be together bonded at the mind and straight to the heart? Why is everyone so afraid to just live and love if someone is living to love them...